I’m not sure what it is about moving into a new year that makes everyone think about “resolutions” – unless we do it simply because we are supposed to. For me, part of looking back at the past year is how I’ve always formed my resolutions – and when I reflect, I find that I’m doing something that is out of the norm for me - and that is not always doing what I’m “supposed” to…
Don’t get me wrong. I do things that I know I need to do. I sometimes do things that I don’t want to do because I know I need to do it. I try to do what needs to be done. But one of the changes I made in my life this last year was to step outside my box - and stop doing things simply because it’s expected of me.
This year, I’m not going to make resolutions. Yes, I have things in my life I certainly need to improve upon – everyone does….and I’m not going to stop trying to improve upon myself. But I refuse to make the age-old resolutions of “lose weight” or “get organized”.
You may be asking where in my life I need to improve, and I will tell you that I need to lose a little weight – and get my house better organized. But they aren’t resolutions; they are goals that I began working towards back around Thanksgiving.
I re-joined the gym, a place that hadn’t seen me in more months that I care to admit. And I began to watch what went into my mouth a little more as well…I still have room to improve there, but I’ve made progress.
As far as getting my house better organized, I finally threw in the towel and hired someone to help me get a jump start on that. One thing I’ve discovered about myself this past year was that I am learning that I have limits to what I can do… and organizing my house is where I cry “uncle”.
But there is something else I need to work on in my life and I don’t quite know where to start. In talking with a friend today, I confessed to her that things still weren’t right – and she was able to put a finger on it…the problem is my life simply isn’t grounded...
I am the kind of person who thinks the way “Windows” operates – with several programs running at the same time – with my mind jumping from task to task. And I’ve succeeded while doing that for more years than I care to count. But now, my life is in a huge state of change, and while most of the changes are good, the sheer amount of change in a short amount of time has left me…well…very unorganized in my head…
My girlfriend told me I need to find an anchor of some sort. Now that the holidays are over and the kids are going back to school soon – I’m hoping my head will begin to clear a bit….For a girl who dislikes doing things that are expected of me simply because, I need to do something I don’t really want to do – and that is add structure into my life.
So goodbye resolutions - and hello goals of necessity...and here's to hoping that if I can make the goal of adding basic and simple routines, maybe that anchor that I seem to need will magically appear…